Rehearsal dinner is way better. It'll go great, especially with wine!
LOL!
(((((((Kris)))))))
Just caught up with your sitch. As you know, I've been going through a very rough patch with my own, so I've fallen behind with many of the tremendous people here, including you, and you were the first one who was really there for me when I came to Piecing a few months back. (((((((Hugs)))))))
I am very sorry to hear the latest. To say the least, I was extremely shocked - totally flabbergasted - when I read about there being a new OW and how you came to find out. I could not imagine what that must have been like for you, but I can certainly feel the pain and anger you must have gone through at that moment. (((((((More hugs)))))))
I think your H's anger is his way of dealing with the hurt, guilt, and disgust he must feel towards himself. It must be too unbearable to deal with, therefore, it is easier to turn the blame around on to you and whoever else he feels he can. It makes what he's done easier to cope with. For him; not for anyone else.
Back in 2005, I was to be the matron-of-honor at my SIL's wedding, but then the bomb hit, and I just wasn't in the mental/emotional condition I needed to be in to be there for SIL. Luckily at the time, her wedding was still a year away, and after talking to her about stepping down as her matron-of-honor (that was a really hard thing for me to do - she was always like a little sister to me), she totally understood and asked her SIL to take my place.
Anyway, I'm glad for you that your speech will be during the rehearsal dinner. I think with it being that way, it might be easier for you to get through.
(((((((My thoughts are with you)))))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
