Too late for DB for us, #9 (was in separated)

[newnamenewlife]

I know--it's so hard, all these things at once. What did the SBT therapist suggest?

No, our H's can't hear or believe anything about the negative impact of their behavior because then they wouldn't be able to go through with it.

On the other hand, now that I've stepped over to the other side--ie we've told the kids and H moved out--I'm trying really hard not to give into too much "broken home" thinking and that this is a tragedy we'll never get over, etc, etc. The fact is, I do have several friends whose parents divorced when they were kids, and they all survived, went on to live fulfilling lives and have good relationships of their own. So nothing has to be written in stone. That said, you know that if I could have saved my M, I would have.