I think if I had gone back home, D would probably be final by now. I felt like I was being smothered and walking on eggshells the whole week between the time I told H I was going to leave and the time I actually left.
This is pretty much what happened when W moved back in. I was walking on eggshells and she was antsy and ready to bolt at a moment's notice. She never even unpacked her suitcases - just left them on the floor. When I finally told her I took that as a sign of non-commitment, she said she had left them out because she thought I'd throw her out. So clearly we were really not reading each other well. That's the danger of taking it too fast - now I'm waiting for D to be final.
One other thing - I've noticed you have quite a few threads going at the same time. Usually it's a better idea to maintain one thread so that people can easily see what's been going on before commenting. You can change the title of a post within a thread if you want.
