Wow -- catching up on your sitch, and all the great interactions on your thread -- just want to let you know I'm in awe and inspired.
Yep, it's amazing we are all so close. And no, I don't think it's because we're especially deranged -- we are in the vanguard of a change in thinking about human psychology -- and it's hard work. We need each other's support, that's for sure!
Great, thought-provoking "aha" lessons and insight from many wonderful DB pals on Jethro's thread. Hey, spread the word -- Jethro ROCKS!
Feel very lucky to listen in on all this.
No wisdom to impart. Gonna take notes for the hopeful day when The Wart and I begin to piece.
One thing that HAS helped me is when Wart, my H (who lives in his own apartment and reserves the right to date others) notices that OTHERS are interested in me. I have more value to him then.
Is this fair?
Is it "game-playing" to capitalize on this?
I don't go there. Just complicates things. Instead, I try to UNLEARN old habits of thinking ("he should do this or that, if he loved me he would have come home by now...") and ACCEPT what works.
Would it be possible for you to get your W's attention by somehow demonstrating that YOU are a hot commodity? Maybe sing a karaoke song in HER presence with ambiguous lyrics?
Pulling ON the Wart makes him pull away. Pulling AWAY from the Wart draws him toward me.
Trying not to be manipulative or cold-hearted, but self-valuing about it seems to work for me. I put on heels, a skirt and red lipstick, flirt with him and smile, but do it in public -- where others catch a glance at "the babe" and it's obvious I'm a catch.
Make yourself "the babe" somehow. (Gee, best not to go with lipstick, but maybe tight jeans and wraparound sunglasses?) and take her out to the bar and be COOL, her rock-and-roll star -- give her a thrill?
Only food for thought.
Might get you some more attention?
Anyways, I love ya though I'm just a neighbor and we don't talk much. Thanks for your ACE db-ing!
