H had 3 year affair and I never knew!

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LOL BMe! I would love to be able to take my own advice!

Funnily enough, at the moment I have only told one of my friends (other than the church pastoral person) what is going on. Sadly for her, her business is going under and she is in serious debt (UK credit crunch!). She phones me up these days, she asks me how I am, I tell her briefly, and then we spend the rest of the conversation with me giving her encouragement!

Maybe she's just a really really good friend and she knows what I need at the moment is to be able to help someone else!

There is an amazing preacher called John Bevere and I think it was him who said that if all we ever get is things flowing in (advice, support etc) and nothing ever flows out of us (ie we help others) we become like the Dead Sea - dead. We need to be willing to be used even in the darkest times of our lives. I like that.