Wise words, lodo, and I take them to heart. You're completely right in that we are both still in such a fragile emotional state of mind right now and I know that it is going to be quite a while before we are even in a position to make any concrete decisions regarding our R and future. When I first left, he told me the only way he would be willing to work on fixing things was if I moved back home. I told him that I wasn't ready for that, that the very idea sent me into a panic attack, and that I needed my own personal space for the time being. I think if I had gone back home, D would probably be final by now. I felt like I was being smothered and walking on eggshells the whole week between the time I told H I was going to leave and the time I actually left.
I like the idea of the "baby steps" approach - now if I can just get my impatient H to be open to that as well!
Last edited by lost3031; 06/25/0807:46 PM.
Me (WAW) 30 H (LBS) 31 T since 6/10/1994 M 8/8/98 No kids S 3/10/08 D filed 6/9/08; put on hold 7/14/08 D finalized 10/13/08
