I Think I Have Officially DB'd Guys!!!

[sage]

My W has mentioned how she wants to go to bar where she met OM...and where OM frequents (very often I might add). Her reasoning is that she kind of wants to make a quick appearance, show everyone that she's got it together (as she thinks there were rumors) and then leave. Kind of a pride thing. She wants me to come, but I'm afraid of seeing OM because I don't know how I'll react. I tell her that I don't feel comfortable with this yet, and that I feel somewhat unpredictable in my reaction to OM if he happens to be there (which would be very likely). So, I don't really know what to do... She's not pushing it, but has mentioned it a few times now. What do you guys think?
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hmmm...my first (and last) reading of this is pretty positive...I can understand the pride thing...maybe to prove to herself and others that she has recovered the positive/good thing in her life? Seems to me that the WAS ALSO loses something in the process -- maybe as simple as a sense of pride in themselves, maybe something deeper like an entire self-image. Either way, I can see her wanting to show people "see? I brought it back from the brink...with this handsome dude by my side".

Dunno...I'm having a hard time NOT projecting here...I think I'd jump for joy if my h. wanted to show off how far we'd come to ow, etc. Guess that shows....

sage