Oh, man, don't get me started on song lyrics and karaoke!!
The night he asked me for a D, CJ sang "Scar tissue" ("Scar tissue that I wish you saw.... Scarcastic Mr. know it all".....Gulp...I think that was me )....
Then he sang, among others, "When it's over...that's the time I fall in love, again"....two days after bomb#2 when he was about to leave for OW!
And don't even ask me about all the tunes I had HIM download which had lyrics that were LOADED...(if you're gonna have me, this is how it's got to be, first of all I won't take you cheating on me, tell me who can I trust, if I can't trust in you...why are you running away? too scared to admit you're afraid...etc etc)...
Jethro...if your W is in La La land to any degree similar to my H...she may have the same excuse...
HE said he never really paid attention to what the lyrics MEANT, just likes certain tunes. What????
I mean, J, that is LAME, considering the last e-mail he sent me WAS lyrics!
But I think for their own protection they dissociate some, you know how we're extra sensitive to such meanings? I think they compensate by being LESS sensitive!
Now, overall I LIKE what I saw in your post. W getting real with her anxiety and past....Excellent! I have a very good recommendation for a guide for her.
"The anxiety and phobia workbook" by Edmund Bourne. It saved my life, I'm sure. It has a whole section on panic reactions, and tons of great info on anxiety, family charts, stress inventories, self-talk exercises, relaxation training, even dietary suggestions (which I don't follow ). Top notch.
About the "show up" at the bar where OM hangs? What's up with that??? What does she hope to accomplish? what are the rumors? that she's dead? gained 100 pounds? That you've kicked her to the curb?
I guess I just don't get it. It sounds kind of juvenile to me.
Now having said that...ewww if I had the opportunity to rub it in OW's face that CJ and I are intact and thriving despite her interference.....
And about the wedding ring...so you had mixed feelings. You were honest about them, she handled her disappointment, AND you found out she'd been thinking of a new ring.
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