I like your new idea about taking it day by day. I all else fails, you could employ the rubber band on the wrist trick when he's around. Give yourself a real good snap if you feel the urge to initiate R talk.
Is his name Chris as well?
Have a happy day.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence