Guilty as charged.. I am a WAW.

[MaxP]

Hi Bridgestone,

Not to hijack your thread, but ...

... thanks for your comments!

She certainly tried igoring her feelings over about the course of a year - she said as much once. I don't remember her trying to connect to me during that time. I only remember a couple of things she said about herself that seemed out of character and slightly disturbing, which she wouldn't be drawn on. As for taking her mind off things, well, she worked hard and talked to her friends, just not to me - by then I think she felt I was 'too different' from her. I believe that in doing this she became aware of new, exciting opportunities* and decided I was boring and reflected things about her that had since changed. She also went to individual counselling (I told her it might help her come to terms with some of the stuff she was saying but wouldn't elaborate on). I'm fairly certain that helped end our R.

Note, she has never admitted anything about seeing someone during that time, but there is a lot of evidence that would fit.

As far as I was concerned it felt like:
1) Irritation with me preceeding bomb by about 2-3 weeks.
2) Bomb. No attraction, all physical contact stops immediately and never resumes. List of minor annoyances about me.
3) 8 weeks of stress living under the same roof, not knowing how to make any progress. She talks about the fantasy of a single life during this time. Some IC (both) and 2 or 3 MC sessions.
4) An announcement that she has signed the lease on a new place and is moving out in 2 weeks.
5) She moves out.
6) During the next 3 months we meet only 3 times. All meetings are arranged by her so that they are on her terms. In each case she always has somewhere she needs to be which causes her to leave.
6) We then meet for a final time and she tells me it's over - "It no longer feels right".
7*) 5 weeks later I receive letter through the door addressed to her and another man (whom I know) - an old university friend of hers.
8) A week later I bump into them shopping in town. NB he lives a long way away from where we live.

There was no wavering at all from her after the bomb. She felt I was trying to find a fix and there wasn't one. Any issues I had with how I was being treated were my problems, not hers. She had grown and I hadn't. End of story.

We haven't met since then, although we still get on fine when we have other contact. However, we may meet in the next month or so once the house is sorted.