If she brings up how miserable she is with you and the kids, I might take that opportunity to suggest that she get a place of her own for awhile (not legal separation...just her go, you stay), but until then, just let her chart her own course.
Ok - I will do that. The last time I did - she went into a tirade about how she is a good mother and loves her kids. But I do think she is thinking about this. Maybe the neighbors can go too! (Just a little humor, I need to laugh)
M 43 W 44 M 17 T 22 S16,12,9 Bomb 2/05/08 I served her 1/06/09 S'd 3/15/09 D'd 12/21/09
"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.