Quoting Dagny: You mentioned expectations you have of her behavior. Have you told her those? Have you told her what actions you need from her? Jackie
I agree!!! I also wonder if maybe she'll get a little closer to you if you drop the OM talk. Not sure, but maybe you should even say that. "I know I've been a bit obsessive about the OM, it's been hurtful to me but I'm going to try to move past that now". And then let her know what you want for your R. Just nicely, calmly. Find out what she wants. Both of you might want some different things, and that is something you have to figure out - ways to incorporate stuff that will make you both happy and fulfilled.
