Quoting jethro: I think I'm confusing the A with our R...and although they are related, one is dead and the other renewed. And thus, my focus should not be on what is dead. Right?
There you go, my friend!
Quoting Michele:"Some people are fix-it addicts. Fixing their marriages becomes the main focus of their lives. The problem with this is that relationships are like see-saws: the more that one person does of something, the less the other will do."
Make sure you don't fall prey to this, my friend. It's really easy to do this in the beginning of the piecing stage. So far, you've had to sprint to get to this point, and you've been really working your butt off. There comes a time, though, to start cooling down slowly.
Make sure you start "letting" her step up to the R some more. Make sure that YOU don't work on it so hard that there's nothing left for her to do. She may not do this EXACTLY the way you want it done, but from what I've seen with you two here so far, she'll probably pick up some of the slack.
This doesn't have to be a "mean" thing, either. It can do done in a way where you're doing you BOTH a favor.
JJ
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