Well AD yes, to a certain extent the squeaky wheel gets the grease. Also keep in mind that to a certain extent people tend to respond to newcomers who are in a bad state. Kind of a triage thing.
Whereas, in your situation, things are about as stable as they are likely to be for awhile. You've weathered round one fairly well with but a few missteps. Hopefully now, in the relative calm, you are back to focusing on you and Abby, and working on coming to grips with the situation.
As I told another member in their thread earlier today, it is very important to continue to remind yourself that this is NOT about you or Abby. Your wife is going thru "something," whatever you choose to call that something. These are HER issues and unfortunately there is little you can do to help.
When she acts out or spews out at you, remind yourself that the anger and recklessness is inside of HER and she is manifesting on to you. Try to remove yourself from the drama and hope for better conditions next time you interact.
Make yourself strong by finding a new focus, other than your relationship troubles. Trust me, they won't wander far from your thoughts ever, but you can at least occupy your time with things that are somewhat beneficial to you and/or your relationship with Abby. Rebuild some of those friend and family relationships that might have gotten burned out a bit by your rough times earlier in the sitch.
It's summer. Go play golf, frisbee golf, go walking/hiking, start jogging. Work on an outside project that will keep you occupied on something productive.
When you do find yourself focusing on your sitch, remind yourself that this is your wife's journey. The best you can do is try to understand, love unconditionally from a distance, and show her the confident and well adjusted guy you are becoming every time you interact.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
