I can identify with what you are going through since my W started her in-house sep at the beginning of the year (see my thread in Hopefulness for details). I wish I could say that things have gotten better but in all honesty - they haven't. GAL is extremely important - we have two kids and W does not carry her share of the load in terms of household activities. It sounds like you made your stance clear to her - which is a very good thing. I wouldn't write W a letter but do give her the space she needs. As for the LRT - it may be too premature for that but GAL activities and keeping as high a PMA as possible may make her begin to wonder. Work on the friendship first and through your actions remind her what attracted her to you in the first place.
We are a safe haven for you - feel free to vent as needed.
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009
