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[jon2911]

Her response:
"Cool, but I don't foresee an appointment needed anytime soon"

I've been thinking about the sitch today. SIL had an episode several years ago where she failed out of college, ran up all her bills and got into a lot of trouble. Her grandparents moved her to live with them, paid off her bills, and got her back on her feet over the course of a year.

I never thought W would go through something similar, but that's where we are. And on top of it, she's too proud to ask their financial help. So, no more money from me.

W and SIL went through their parent's nasty divorce while in high school. They were the picture-perfect family with a ton of money, and it all fell apart. W was closer to her dad, SIL closer to her mom, so there's always been tension. The thing is, they still look perfect, they're still rich. I was always embarrassed of my family compared to hers. So all in all, this could be a good thing. She's supposedly found a counselor, but I doubt she's gone.

Interestingly, SIL and her fiancee have had great results in the same recovery group I go to. I've been surprised at how much the 12 steps are about dealing with pain from your past. SIL sounds like a new person now. Of course, W thinks it's a bunch of crap, people can't really change, blah blah blah. I just need to let her hit rock bottom like SIL did.