Quoting jethro: So, what do you guys think? Do I need a 2x4 treatment? Should I just shut-up about the A now? Am I dwelling on things far too much? jethro
Yes, you should shut up about it.
Why? Because you keep bringing this guy up in her mind when she is getting distance from that. And because it causes you more problems than it solves.
The one thing I've been posting about is having too many expecations. I know if I was back with ex-b, he'd not likely change much. I can't expect that he will. But I would have changed and that is enough.
You have a W who is willing to work on the R. Maybe she hasn't put in as much as you'd like, but at least she is there and putting effort in. That is really good. Instead of just talking about R - maybe you should both do things more that you both really enjoy (if you aren't already). Create some bonds again and don't push her too hard.
