At some point the time might come when my kids will ask to know what really happened, and I'm not going to lie either, your son is almost a teenager, and you told it in a compassionate way without blaming nor anger, that's very important, i'm glad you did it that way. They might need to know, kids, even our MC during the blowup told stbx "the kids one day will ask, and you will come out as the bastard" and sbtx agreed!
As far as falling apart and sobbing your heart out, it will happen, well after we have graciously accepted what it is is, after we waved our M good bye. And it is ok, I make sure I call one of my girlfriends and sob and then feel much better... and you know what? the instances when i feel like sobbing hard have dimished, so far it has been 2-3 times, last time was 1.5 months ago. Last week a song that came on my zumba class made me want to run out and cry, but the urge left. It will get better hon, this whole thing is too recent))))
As far as the looney phone call, push it back in the farthest corner of your mind, now and then stbx would spew out venom too, don't let him have any power over you, you know you wouldnt' put anyone against him out of spite, specially the children.
I'm glad you have an IC for your son to talk to, prayers your way Donna))))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
