Baggy - I agree with you in theory, but I have little hope that either NTE or his wife will really put in the hard work necessary to fix this. Therefore, I can see a situation where he will end up in the basement in this in-house separation for the next 10 years until the kids are grown up. He even said that was a possibility in his first thread. The thought of being in an in-house separation just waiting out a divorce is horrible to me. Just get it done if that is what is going to happen anyway...that is just my feelings on it.
In my marriage my ex-h and I slept in separate bedrooms for the last 4 years of our marriage. Did it help? Chyuh...no it just made it easier for me to leave him when the time came to realize that neither of us were going to do the hard work.
Just my two cents...
NTE - Not sure what you mean about the physical stuff on the vacation. I thought you were on sex strike.
