While I totally agree that both young men and women need better sex education, and that would definitely cause *better* sex to be had amongst those youngsters as they grow and enter into meaningful relationships...however, I don't think that would do anything to change their desire level. People with low desire are frequently very good lovers, and people with high desire are NOT necessarily good lovers. The quality of sex is a different problem between couples, I believe, and is usually much easier to deal with as long as the frequency is agreed upon.
Another quick twist...I haven't read any statistics about this, but I do talk to lots of people and read lots of message boards, and I am seeing more and more, women who are HD together with men who are LD. Now, I would have assumed that your stats quoted above were the norm, that men are way more likely to be HD. But ... I think that is changing for many reasons. Women are more liberated, (duh), and the overtly sexual nature of the media and music and fashion is causing younger and younger girls to really want good sex (or to be slutty, depending on how you look at it). More of them are easy going about porn and want to "be" that girl in the porn movies in bed with their men. So I assume all of these things are contributing to more and more young women coming into adulthood ready and willing to get it on, and I mean get it on "good", not just lay there and wait for it to be over.
I have had many female friends in their 20's complaining that their man talks big but when it comes to the bedroom, he just isn't all that into it. Backlash? Does he not really want to have sex with her unless he has to coerce it out of her? Is continuous overt sexuality from a woman a turn off to a man? I know you, Cinco, and most men literally can't imagine any healthy man turning down sex with his beautiful, young, willing partner. But you'll just have to take my word for it - this happens over and over. And women are just as crushed by the rejection as men are. It kills them inside.
Common wisdom used to be that if a man didn't want sex, it was because:
A. He is getting it elsewhere.
B. He is gay.
C. Either A. or B. and there is no other reason.
This is short-sighted and silly. Until you hear first hand the stories of HD women with LD men, you won't believe it yourself... but it is way more common than you might think.
