I've been in Newcomers although my spouse moved out in mid February. I don't want to accept that he's doing everything in his power to end our 25 years together.
Like most, I never believed he would find a relationship outside of our marriage.. even while in our marriage. He promptly moved out within 3 weeks of saying he was miserable, two weeks after saying he wanted to live his own life. That happened mid February of this year.
We've both made mistakes. He's convinced our marriage was wrong from the beginning. He's living with his much younger girlfriend and has been since he left.. something I didn't find out until months later.
We have three kids, two boys , 22 and 18 (today) and a girl who's 13 and will be a freshman in high school this fall.
Whenever I have to do something to facilitate the divorce (as required by law) I die inside and feel awful.
Normally, I'm pretty upbeat, finding the silver lining. Right now I don't see hope and wonder why I should look. Doing so only hurts me more with a guy who's adamant that it's over, when he does talk to me.
