New Abbreviation for everyone VI

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Thanks for checking in on me Kat

I have been feeling down and don't know why, need to get my head out of the sand, my ass in gear and get to work rebuilding my life. (I will need to whistle while I work, hmmm, what song should I whistle, I know: "Always Look on the Bright Side of Life")

Here are some facts about my life and life in general

* My W will never come home
* I will never forgive W for what she has done

Jeff,

I'm sorry, I don't accept your premise. There's no way you KNOW for sure that these are true. Had anyone asked you a couple of years ago that THIS would be happening, you would have said "no way!"

I too got very angry with God, and I STILL don't have all the answers as to why He let me go thru what I had to go thru. But I do know that what I THOUGHT I wanted, would have led to exactly ZERO GROWTH by me personally, or between me and my wife as a couple.



Higher Ways
Stephen Curtis Chapman


If I could only fly
I'd go up and look down from the sky
So I could see the bigger picture
And Lord if I could sit with You
At Your feet for an hour or two
I'm sure I'd ask too many questions
'Cause there's so much going on down here
That I must confess I just don't understand

BRIDGE
But I have prayed
And at your feet my whole life has been laid
So I wont worry I wont be afraid
'Cause my soul is resting on Your higher ways
Let the road ahead become unclear
I am Yours so what have I to fear
If my soul is resting on Your higher ways

CHORUS
Your higher ways teach me to trust You
Your higher ways are not like mine
Your higher ways are the ways of the Father
Hiding His children in His love

BRIDGE
So let it rain
And if my eyes grow dim with tears of pain
This hope I have will not be washed away
'Cause my soul is resting on Your higher ways

Maybe then You will take me aside
And show me the bigger picture
But until I'm with You
I'll be here with a heart that is true
And a soul that's resting on
Your higher ways

[JeffSTL]

Hey Puppy, how are your doing today

You may be right, I just cannot see my W putting forth the kind of effort it would take to reconcile and give up OM.

I may also forgive W, in time, when I get to a better place in my life, but being lied to and hurt by a person you trusted and loved, to go outside M and begin an A with OM is beyond my comprehension. Its something I don't know I can ever forgive.

We all have a long haul ahead of us, good or bad it's the path we choose in life that's important.

M45
W41
M10 3/4 years
D9, D6, D6, S5
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08
Date I'll forgive W for A = never

[whatdidido]

It takes a very strong woman to admit she was wrong, or even admit she COULD be wrong, when she feels that it is so right. Everyone sins and is capable of sin. It also takes a very strong man to be able to forgive the ultimate of betrayals.

With God, anything is possible.

Whatever you do, God already knows what it is. You will do what you need to do. Keep talking to God. He is listening.

Hugs to you.

[hopeful4her]

Hey, Jeff.

You NEVER know. Things change. Sometimes for the better. It happens. I really believe that if your wife came to you tonight and said that she wanted to come home, you might let her. We know you would do it, with boundaries, but you would do it.

Because we know you still love her.

But we see the terrible issues that she has. For a mother to not have that mother instinct. Man, that has to be hard. For the two of you to not be on the same page on this, well I don't think that I would want her around, either.

Everyone's sitch is hard. Just like I know my sitch ain't as bad as others. You sure have a good one, though. Just like I do.

You are going to be better for it. All of us will. And remember, God is always on our side. Sometimes, we just don't recognize it.

[hopeful4her]

BTW, love the song, Puppy.

[JeffSTL]

Hi whatdidido, I was thinking about you when I was typing my response to puppy, I don't believe my W would be as strong as you are. She would never come back and say I made a mistake and admit she was wrong.

I have been struggling with the forgiveness, reading the bible, I know I need to forgive her and with time I may be able to. Right now I'm angry and have too much work to do with the kids the house, work, etc. - what a nightmare this has been

I've been watching your post whatdidido I'll try to stop in and say hi


We all have a long haul ahead of us, good or bad it's the path we choose in life that's important.

M45
W41
M10 3/4 years
D9, D6, D6, S5
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08
Date I'll forgive W for A = never

[Puppy Dog Tails]

That song has gotten me thru many tough, tough days.

[JeffSTL]

Help

I don't know what to do, I came home from softball game, W dressed up very nice to go out. I was talking to the kids, and I was told that mommy left them at a park by themselves.

I called W and asked her WTF (I didn't say that) I said I want to hear what actually happened. she laughed, and she told me she left the kids for approx 6 minutes, while (she hesitated) she dropped of some charity clothing.

That's wrong, leaving a D9 by herself and watching D6,D6 and S5 all by herself for any amount of time is wrong.

I don't have $1500 to file for D, AC out will cost $3400 to fix, called my mom, she is giving (Lending) me the money for AC.

Its wrong its wrong, my poor kids,

We all have a long haul ahead of us, good or bad it's the path we choose in life that's important.

M45
W41
M10 3/4 years
D9, D6, D6, S5
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08
Date I'll forgive W for A = never

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Jeff,

I think you should call Child Protective Services (or whatever it's called in your area), and at least get some consult from them. Hopefully, the call will also create a file on your wife.

You also need to document this in the journal you are hopefully keeping, and let your attorney know right away.

THAT IS INEXCUSABLE, and TOTALLY UNACCEPTABLE. You need to tell her, in no uncertain terms, that if it happens again, you will call the police -- PERIOD.

How in the world did you leave it with her??

Horrified,

Puppy

[kat727]

Hon, this woman sadly doesn't seem to care about being a Mom. I do think she has some emotional/possibly mental issues. Is there any way that you can get her evaluated? She needs to be taking her medication that you spoke of before. Are there any family services that you could contact and check out your options? I am so sorry, I wish I had a better answer for you.

I would find daycare of some sort for your children and not wait to let her watch them anymore. Document this as well. My thoughts are with you and your wonderful children.

kat