but I understand ... once the D appears "busted", this bb can become a two edged sword in ways, can be a hinderance in the healing process as much as being a godsend...
Quoting jethro: I am also plagued with the fact that I'm not sure that she REALLY loves me. I mean, she says she does, but I'm not convinced. I question whether she's just resigned herself to being M to me because we have a family and history together. Occasionally she DOES tell me that she loves me, but these moments seem fleeting. I do appreciate them, but again, they are rare.
I'm in the same boat!! If my W remains in M from here on out, I think I will always have that question in the back of my mind too ... but I remain hopeful that some day in the future, she will come to the conclusion it was the right choice to make for her happiness and with her happiness will come her love. Basically, that's how it happened the first time and this is one case where I'm hoping history can repeat itself, then I'll make sure it takes a different road from there.
