Sage (good name choice), When you suggested to Jethro: "If I let go of my pain...I....* feel like I'm sending the message that an a. is "get overable" or OK"....you really hit a cord w/me. I struggle with that very issue. While I realize that my H and I can't move forward if I keep badgering him about his A...I know that I fear that "letting it go" will somehow be saying to him exactly what you said to Jethro. And an A or the continued ommissions or lies related to it keep closure from ever happening. So I wonder, how do we find the balance? T2
