Is the OM in the picture, I don't know. She was really hurt when I accused her of and EA and possible PA. She said that I hurt her by thinking she would do something like that. She has denided it over and over. Told me she has not contacted him since 4/5.
I bounce back and forth over the issue. Again I have no proof either way. I can not imagine her doing this but most people on here probably thought the same thing.
I would hope she would not have that much disrespect for me and the kids but who knows. I love this woman but don't think I could ever forgive her for doing something like that.
Again if she was seeing him why put the ring on at all? Its not everytime she goes out, sometimes its to work or when we go out but not everytime. I think she may feel like connecting and wear it and when she dosen't she dosen't. She does not go out very often by herself at night but I am only with her at night. As she told me if I wanted to I could talk to him or see him during the day.
I don't think she would have said that if she was seeing him. But then again what the he** do I know.
Again I am way over thinking these things and if I trusted her totally I would not even be thinking this. So either I learn to totally trust her and possible be seen as a fool if it is true or I continue to waver back and forth and most likely lose her.
I can not accuse her anymore because if she has not done anything but be friends with him and is not talking to him anymore she will be hurt and our M is over. If she is and has been seeing him our M is over but I will feel better and would not be a fool.
So I chose to keep my mouth shut, now I just need to trust she is not going behind my back and making a mockery out of our M.
Like I said way earlier in your sitch. There are two trains of thought here.
1. forget about the Om and do what your doing. Most affairs die after the newness wears off.
2. Out the affair if you have proof.
That choice is yours. There are many positives in your sitch. Only you can make that decision.
The ring thing you may want to forget about.
Mine wore her engagement ring until recently, she took off her wedding band months ago. She now wears nothing.
hang in there and keep doing what your doing. Stop thinking about her every move and concentrate on you.
