To refer to a quote from "Shrek", I guess we are discovering we're all onions! Jethro sounds like you're starting to peel away some of the deeper layers and with that comes some of the lessons learned that get us closer to our self-enlightenment, but at certain points we need to take a break too...

Quoting Jackie:
I think a vacation is a great idea. How about at least a mental vacation? Give yourself a week or two where you will use every visiualation trick you know to stop thinking of the R, and just do whatever else you do that is not about M.
I have discovered this past week just how wise this advise is and what a 180 it has worked out to be. I've been so unbelievable busy this past week that I just haven't had the time to ponder R, M, OM, PA ... or what's going thru W's mind, her thoughts, or even my own. It's forced me to take a mental hiatus (and it seems for my W too in some regard), including even getting on this board or anything else to do with "working on M", and it has done wonders as I still was able to recognize the positives but didn't allow me to analyze or pick the sitch apart (of course, the down side to this is I'm now hopelessly behind on this forum) ... in short it forced me to stop thinking so damn much (and again the same seems to go for W too.) ... so we've been getting along great for the last week and I've come to realize just how much torment I been putting myself thru and how much effort it was taking to continue that train of thought process. Actually, its worth considering as a 180 to continue for a while longer ... the trick will be finding more to keep us so busy.

'til later,
KAW