I can so relate to the "friends" thing, it is aggravating. How can they be supposedly working on the M and yet trying to keep an R of ANY kind going with the OW?? I can relate on the BD thing too. My H actually thought it would be OK to go to her BD party/dinner. Are you kidding me??? He was sneaky about it, just said he was "going to dinner with friends" and I remembered what date it was.
Anyway - just wanted to say I can totally empathize!!
Part of me wants to say "ignore the bad, focus on the good" - but on the flip side, totally ignoring that nagging "something's up" feeling can be a bad idea. Do you think you could (calmly) discuss your concerns with H and remind him of that boundary? Tell him that you remembered her BD is coming up and you're feeling anxious about it? Not an ultimatem, just a telling him how you're feeling. Just a thought.. it would be a tough convo I know.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
