Quoting jethro: So, when I think about this one, I guess I do have a certain power being the one cheated on, do I not? I have the power to give forgiveness, I have the power to trust, I have the power to let or not let my pain go. I can exert this power to achieve certain things...almost like blackmail. Now, I haven't been doing this (blackmail), but I still KNOW I have it. You see? Taking the moral high-ground, even without reminding my W of my "morals," still gives me this power. And power leads to control, does it not? And control (being a child of an alcoholic) is something I need to let go of...because I only have control over me.
Sounds like you hit the jackpot with this one, jethro. Good stuff (and I appreciate how hard the "digging deep" is for you. Makes it even more valuable in my book!)
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
