This wasn't on the postcard

[WCW]

Even though I have done as much as I can, I still feel some days that I have failed.

When you have tried your best and put your all into it that is not being a failure. You may not have reached your goal but that involved another person with you that you could not control. You did not fail on your part.

the person I married was not a bad choice. A combination of bad choices on her part has put us where we are at.

That is very generous of you to say that. It was an eye opener for me to read this too! So many people think they made a bad choice in their M partner, I think you're one of the first that said they didn't! I agree with your thinking and will say that my H was not a bad choice of a M partner. I was head over heels about him, and deep inside I still am but I have to keep it smothered to survive these years of strife while we struggle thru his poor choices.

However, I have decided to focus on the positive, so I can make it through this whole mess.

I love your attitude!

One thing that kind of makes me angry is that this whole thing came to a head just because I had "a spine" about something and called W on one of her bad choices.

Phoenix, you can't be a henpecked H and scared to put your head on the block. Is that how you would want to live the rest of your life? unable to be a partner and have a voice?

I think instead of admitting a mistake, she just decided that the R was not worth working that hard for and threw this in my lap. The society we live in these days is deflect blame and let others pay for our mistakes.

She is very childish for a mother and a wife. Does she pound her fists while she throws her tantrum? oh no, she just sends the paperwork and runs.

I really don't see how she will be able to teach morals and accountability to our kids after this.

You're kidding right? she doesn't know what it is.

WCW, put a spur in that old horse. Hopefully you can find a usefull 2X4 floating by your ranch these days. Apply liberally!

But with a smile!