Winner At A Losing Game

[karen43]

I am putting my foot down where it comes to these unilateral decisions being made for our S's -- no longer will she be calling all the shots.

I think that is a great idea! I think that your W is a lot like my H maybe--I believe my H lost respect for me when I was letting him make all the decisions. I think he thought (thinks) of me as more of an employee or something, (esp. since I am a sahm). I think my H sees being nice as weakness, and kind of the same way as that article you were talking about it--"nice" is bad.

Although I have to admit the 2 decisions I have made (where the kids and I want to live after the D) and moving my son's bedroom upstairs so he could have more privacy, my H went ballistic. I think he really likes having the control, and the fact that I would make decisions drives him crazy. But I wonder if eventually maybe he will respect me more--or not, but even if he doesn't, I think I respect myself more, and maybe that's good enough. Karen