Quote: I also have to wonder about everyone on the BB. Is there some common trait that all of us have that brings us here? Is it neediness, a vigilent co-dependence, fear of change, strength, universal consciousness, a higher purpose? What is it? What is God trying to tell us? I can't help but think there's purpose in all of this...that the pain will lead to enlightenment.
I am wrestling with this big time right now. Especially why I feel the way I do even though my W treats me like crap. I understand that God is trying to tell me to work on a few things in my life and, truthfully, until those are done I would not be ready for a new relationship with my W. But the other part is harder. Is it unconditional or even pure love we had or have for our spouses that is now being forced to be shut off? I never saw any of this coming so the shock value of it is like some sort of post traumatic stress disorder. It is true that most people do not like or accept change especially when it is forced. But positive growth is always good.
