ms ladybug SQUISHED (2)

[TwinDad]

For him, his love language is Act of Service (lots and lots of acts of service )
He has told me that he feels loved when the house is clean, dinner is cooked, etc.... It makes him feel "taken care of."
So, those are the ways I can take care of him.

For me, I'd like him to take care of me by mowing the lawn!

Sounds like a nice trade would be "Hey H, could you come over and cut the grass.....I'll make you some xyz (one of his favorite meals) for dinner/lunch"

Ladybug,

Sounds like things are going much better for you. I think his confused reactions are normal. The good is that he seems to be spending more and more time with you. I always take it as a good sign when I see some of my friends not posting as much!

As far as the OW goes, I think you have to ride it out. I don't feel you are in a position to demand it stops....he has to choose, which it sounds like he is starting to by spending more time with you. The more time he spends with you the more jealous and clingy the OW is likely to get and the more this will push him towards you.

OK, so that night while he went out to get a movie, he texts OW (I snooped on his phone later). She just said she was at work and busy, couldn't talk. WHY does he spent ALL DAY with me, have all kinds of sex, then gets alone for a minute, and texts HER!

I know how you feel, We went on a family vacation to TN and were having good sex, etc, and later I find out she was texting OM.....I felt so insulted and disappointed. The good news is on our last vacation none of the texting happened

He also asked what the plans are for 4th of July.

This is great, plan something fun for your family!

Should I mention our anniversary? Should I wait to see if he mentions it? It's not really a HAPPY anniversary after all...

I don' think there is no good answer here. In my sitch our anniversary fell a few days before our planned sep date following the sale of our home so we were heavy into the moving process. I made reservations at a nice restaurant and mentioned them to W. She said she didn't want to celebrate our marriage. I just responded and said, "we are married, we are going to do something, besides who said anything about celebrating, I just figured we could use the break and sit back and relax a bit". At first she balked but we ended up going out and having a decent time.

I don't know what you have typically done in the past for your anniversary, but I think it would be a mistake to ignore it since things seem to be improving quite a bit. Perhaps going out on a date like you recently did to a nicer restaurant and a movie and perhaps a little gift without a mushy card. I think the goal should be to have a good time, without emphasizing the M too much. I don't know if this helps