New thread, new phase?

[TwinDad]

Julia,

I know it sounds weird and I see all the positive aspects of it but it is so ingrained on me that it is a sign of weakness, in fact in my family talking in general is a sign of weakness that I am not quite sure how to handle it or what to expect.

I have felt the same way for a number of years. I find it has helped a little bit, mainly to get a third parties perspective and opinion on the relationship dynamics going on.

Like you, I have found this site to be immensely helpful, essentially taking the place of counseling. IN my last IC session yesterday, I actually talked more about how I was applying some of the DB principals and they seemed to be pretty effective. This site really helped me regain my self and my confidence. The most helpful part is hearing the honest perspective of people on the other side (the WAWs and former MLCers)

Also, at least he isn't scared to meet with me anymore. That has petrified him for months and months. My pressurising him to meet me was what sparked off saying he couldn't go on. My backing off and going dark has achieved him feeling easier being around me, even if it is to discuss selling the house, so maybe I am seeing results...

It is dialog and is definitely an improvement. Continue to evlauate what you are doing for results and make changes as necessary. You are startig to make inroads....keep up the good work!