My wife had bought me some clothes for my birthday that were nice but not really what I wanted. She said if I don't like them that I could take them back. I told her I would like to exchange them and then she proceeeds to say that she does not understand why. She said I have been buying your clothes for all these years and now you don't like what I buy you. Maybe I should not buy clothes for you anymore.
She really said, "whether you like them or not i want you to keep them because I went to a lot of trouble to pick this stuff out." "I've done it before and you've not complained, now you are, What's up with that??"
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She then says that I can buy my own clothes if I want to and since I have been going to the mall and Kohls so much lately it seems strange for a guy who only ever went shopping three to four times a year. She wanted to know why I was there again on Monday night.
Sometimes when a guy buys new clothes or starts cleaning himself up a W will get uneasy thinking he is putting himself out there..looking for something on the side. Assure her these are work clothes.
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Actually she wants a silver watch for her b-day and I was looking for that but I could not tell her that. And when I am vague she just keeps pressing me for why I was there. Its hard to deflect these questions, I am going to just say from now on that I am going into the office.
I would tell her I'm shopping. I would not lie to her. If you lie and say you're going to the office and she checks and your not there then she will be pissed and assume you are "out there".
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I told her I was sorry for upsetting her but she said she wasn't.
It's good that you apologized..She was upset, if she wasn't then she would not have said anything about it.
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I still felt bad this morning so after I took a shower she was in bed and said morning. I told her I was sorry for hurting her feelings last night and that I always liked the clothes she bought for me.
Saying sorry once is good, twice is better. Now don't apologize for this again. Twice is enough. Drop it now. if she brings it back up, listen and validate.
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She said I did not and "you worry to much honey, take them back and get what you want."
I am going to ask you to "bend" here. I think you should keep some of it..wear it for her. You don't have to keep all of it. Go buy what you like.
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I am just not sure if I should have just said I really like them and been done with it
This would have been acting "as if"
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her feelings really are not hurt because that is not what I wanted to do.
You've apologized, now move forward, continue on, and forget about it unless she brings it up again..Then Listen and validate.
