I Think I Have Officially DB'd Guys!!!

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Her e-mail was nice and thoughtful, but I'm SOOOOO sick of these lies. Had she told me to begin with, I know I would have been able to handle this better...handle it all at once.

This has been my dilema...to tell or not to tell H that A was actually a PA...I'm sure your W was trying to protect you...didn't want you to be more hurt. And-she's probably embarrassed or ashamed about it and admitting it just makes it real. If you can forgive her knowing about the other stuff you can forgive her for knowing this. Here's something I read the other day- Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. You forgive but you don't forget. You don't want to forget becausue you want to learn from your mistakes. Forgiving doesn't mean condoning what happened. It doesn't mean that it was OK...it just means that you have chosen to forgive and want to move forward. And last but not least- here is something I came across the other day for everyone who says- "I would NEVER do that" or "I'm not the one who cheated"- An undetected weakness coupled with an unexpected opportunity- you could do anything as evil or as wicked as anyone else has ever done. And last but not least...when you let your heart drift from God you are never sure what you are capable of doing. I guess what I'm trying to say is don't be too hard on her...it coulda been you...please forgive her- she is there and she is trying!