I hear ya, I'd feel the same way and do in my sitch. But still, the BOTTOM LINE is that she is home and supposively committed. Many of us here would stick our pride in our back pocket and make that trade with you.
Time heals alot of ills Jethro, work on the forgiveness aspect as best you can, and give her a chance to make amends. If it works out, a year from now you'll hopefully look back and see the silver lining in it afterall.
