Yay SD!!! I feel that in a piecing situation, it takes some kind of "test" for the LBS to start to feel more comfortable, or even a series of mini ones. By "test" I don't mean of course starting arguments or engineering situations to test your H or W, but things that arise naturally. It's looking out for the positives, celebrating those, and the more of them you celebrate the easier it is to ignore any negatives. During our crises practically EVERYTHING was negative, it's easy to get into the mindset that it will always be that way.
Soon you'll get to a point where it all seemed like a faraway nightmare. I am there now. I certainly won't forget what happened, but my H is most def forgiven. We discussed this and I told him I looked on it that he had been taken over by an alien during that time. He liked that analogy, it helped when I said to him that during our bad times it wasn't the real him who was acting/speaking. That helped him forgive himself and move on.
Take it easy
PS does this mean no hot cabana boys now?
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
So yeah...I have sciatica. I bent over oh-so-slightly this morning to grab my purse, and SPROING went my back. Excruciating pain. I ended up on the floor, laughing like a moron because it was just too funny.
I am in the last week of teaching, and it's been a really tough group. I'm in no doubt that this is my body's way of screaming about the stress and taking care of myself.
Anyway, H was wonderful. He helped me find a chiropractor and spent the whole morning with me at the doc. He noted how well I was taking everything, couldn't believe I was laughing. I guess I have changed a lot...I just couldn't see the point in getting angry at something so out of my control. So I made all my calls to cover my classroom from the floor and laughed at the situation.
The chiro helped a ton--I have a few more sessions scheduled, so hopefully this will all be much better in the next couple of weeks. I'm thinking it won't help that FRIDAY IS MY LAST DAY WITHOUT STUDENTS!!! Don't get me wrong, I love them and I love my job, but they've been VERY challenging and it's time for all of us to move on.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
LOL--I love the idea of a theme song. Everyone needs a theme song, don'tcha think?
Just one more thing to post before I take a nap:
I. LOVE. VICADIN.
I saw my GP about the sciatica, and he prescribed a muscle relaxer and vicadin for the severe pain. I HATE taking drugs of any sort, but I'd tried the natural route and spent a good portion of this morning crying from the pain. Why be a martyr? Heck, I almost feel normal now.
H told me the best thing I can do for him and everyone else is just take care of myself right now. He's taking charge of everything at home, and my two good friends and colleagues at work are taking care of everything there.
I am BLESSED!!!!!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
I am glad the vicodin (sp??) is working for you. Sometimes, you just have to go with modern medicine.
So glad your H, friends, and colleagues are all stepping in to help too. Wow! You so deserve it, and I'm glad to see it coming to you.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
H says he never made it a priority b/c he thought I didn't want people over.
Tell H I thought I expressed MANY months back how I'd like to have people over more often. WANTED that.
*I* am the only one trying to improve all of the above complaints. Can I get some input? Assistance?
No.
Complain, complain, excuse.
I am just going to do what I want with my house, and then H can like it or not. *At least* ***I*** will like it.
He just wants to complain. About everything and nothing.
Grrrr.
Not a big M crisis, just something that is really, really, really annoying.
And I will come back and talk to H about it once I'm calm. 48-hour rule and all that.
But right now I sorta want to kick him in his whiny man cookies.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Yes. You are all invited to my whiny man cookie kicking party. I'll be serving wine, beer, and light hors d'oerves.
After all of that, he raved and raved about how good everything looks. Thanked me for my work and even complimented me on something I hung. I thought this was what women did???
Actually, I'm wondering if he was feeling guilty yesterday when I was cleaning. H works from home now, and I'm off for the summer, so he couldn't miss that I basically tore the whole upstairs apart yesterday. I'd actually decided just to vacuum, but I have this weird thing where once I've started, I really go for it.
Silly man.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
