Hey everyone. Thanks for everyone's visits. Seems it's been some time since I posted on my own thread.
My W and I continue to try and find our balance. Yes, the yin and yang of things... Neither one of us really react much anymore (not that we don't ever get a little pissy). We listen, then respond respectfully...each keeping more of an open mind. Interesting dynamic change. In the many years since I've known my W, we've never had such communication. What an interesting transition...
So, last night my W went out with Divorcee friend. They went to do Karaoke, and guess what, they ran into OM. So, laying in bed around 1:30 AM (after she gets home) my W tells me this wonderful news. I asked if she talked to him and she said she only said hi, sang the song she had previously put in, and then left.
She went on to say that she didn't feel anything when she saw him, that she was glad she saw him because it confirmed how (well) she was feeling these days...and that I should be happy about that...
Well, I have to say I wasn't thrilled that she saw OM. I will, unfortunately, be watching her a bit more closely the next couple of days to see if it had some kind of affect on her. However, I am very happy that she told me, because she wouldn't have done so in the past. I'm also pleased that she respected how I would feel and left the club. Mostly, I'm happy that she didn't really feel anything when she saw him (not that I totally believe it, but whatever...).
So, things continue to continue. It hasn't been easy at times. Still many reminders of her infidelity. Sometimes I tell her I'm feeling crummy and sometimes not. It's hard for both of us, but we're working through it...
