I am so so sorry. His reaction seems so typical. He gets caught and is turning it around on you. I'm so dang mad for you.
I think you should go to the wedding with your friend. Regardless of what you decide with H, that night should be somewhat nice for you, especially since you have the added stress of playing a role in the wedding. You do NOT need the added stress of him there. Take your friend, and try to do for YOU that night. Try in the midst of all this chaos to have a night of fun.
I'm so sorry. I just wish there was something I could say.
Chris
__________ Me:39 H:39 D:8 D:4 M:9 (T 13) Bomb 4-5-08, H moved out 6-16-08, Reconciled and H moved back in 5-31-09 Still doing GREAT a year later!!!