O.K. hoosiermama, you seem quite knowledgeable on this so may I ask your opinion?
Why would XH act completely different from me when we had similar backgrounds?
For example he thrived on drama and intensity, had a temper in his younger years, was always having a crisis, got bored of our stagnant R, Well, he's basically the person in that article. Seemed to easily (simplistic I know) walk out of our M without looking back, etc. He did a fabulous job of hiding some of these traits and was a good, honest, reliable type of guy for 12 years or so...
I on the other hand thrived on harmony and continuity but was also easily bored without stimuli (still am) but I do not create or thrive on bad crisis, just like activity and good excitement. Would have done anything to repair our marriage and didn't want to be viewed as a quitter, etc.
We seemed HUGELY compatible and to have so much in common until the beginning of the end.
Any comments would be appreciated but I will get the book.
