I've been wondering what has been happening in your situation. I've read the Secret. It was OK. I also read Conversations with God and The Law of Attraction. All carry the same principles. Unfortunately, I have not mastered any of the techniques!
About your relationship with your husband... I think you should stay the course. You are correct - you cannot control anything your H does. You can only be the best you can be and perhaps your husband will come around and see what he's missing.
I like your restraint, but feel free to post whatever is on your mind. I would never 'hoof' you (not familiar with that term.) =)
Hang in there, Abbey and please keep us updated so we know what's going on with you.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
