This kind of thing is the basis for Harville Hendrix's Imago work. We recreate our childhood sitches so that we can work them out. Sounds dreadful, but the blessing is that we often CAN work them out with our S, and experience a lot of healing in the process. Takes a lot of work, tho.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
