Wow. You are pissed. I've been there. When this thing started for me in December, my W was so unfair and angry with me. She was not doing well. What happened was that I was the calm one and would not let her affect me (Well, I would not let her SEE the affect on me). That seemed to take the wind out of her sales and have a calming effect on her. Since then, even though we are not out of the woods, our relationship is far improved. Stay even-keel.
It is very okay to get pissed and throw things or whatever...but do it in private. Hopefully, in a couple days, you will regroup. This thing is fresh for you guys. You guys are both so raw right now. Trust me, if you are the calm one...the reasonable one, he just might chill and start to notice. Read some of my posts...we all can get soooo discouraged. I'm no different.
If this thing is going to get better, you need to keep DBing and bite your lip when you deal with him. Give him time to realize that he's being an a$$. Deflect his anger and let it roll off.
Also, you are in my prayers and I will ask God for a cool new job for you. If you would like some other encouragement and advice on how to stay patient, listen to Stop Divorce Radio at:
Also read the restored marriages and it should help you. But don't give up and patience, patience. As one of my priests told me, "This thing is going to get a lot worse before it gets better." Jane, be in this for the long haul. Find your calm and GAL. Be kind to yourself, my friend. We care about you and we will support you. You are not alone!
(((HUGS)))
-Flipper
Last edited by Flipper; 06/25/0801:18 AM.
Me: 46 Second Marriage WAW: 38 First Marriage Separated: Dec. 2007 W Filed for D: Feb. 2008 For more hope, click: http://rejoiceministries.org/
