ROOT, H has high standards so he rarely praise anyone directly, me or others. That's just his personality. I think he is more like "I am not to blame so naturally someone else caused it to happen". For example, since he does not want to admit that he is careless in putting keys everywhere, then it must be because I put stuff on top which caused him the 10 minutes to look for them. Not exactly blaming, but avoiding self-conviction. And no praising other people. I have learnt to let it slide. I notice that this is his first jerk reaction in many things. But after he calms down, he would be nice (pretending or not, I don't know). I have watched his action. Still using keys as an example, he would say something funny like "Your memory is good. See, I don't even remember where I put my keys." A way of apoligizing if he knows I am upset. I have learnt not to get upset right away but wait and see what his "delayed" action is. And oftentimes he would have a "corrective" action and I appreciate that part.
Sometimes I think I am a doormat. But I am telling myself that just as I cannot control not being "hormonal" at that time of the month and he is tolerant of me, I learn to accept that this "first reaction" is part of his personality and wait for his more thought out reaction.
