And the day came ...

[sage]

Also, since I'm trying to give examples from my own sitch, it makes me go back to that place in time and my feelings and Ceb's feelings etc. I also ask a lot of advice from Ceb which means we bring up the sitch more and that's probably not great for our R either.

So I'm wondering if you don't have the same thing going on in your R and your life too? I know you come and go but you've been here pretty consistantly since I have (even throughout my break) and I just thought maybe it's a possibility. Any thoughts on that?

Hey Calystra -- we crossposted! I just mentioned you and your wonderful advice later on my thread.

Anyway, sometimes I do feel as though the BB can drag me down a bit...seeing other people's pain, revisiting my own crud, etc. BUT, I think that for me right now the truth is that I just really haven't let go of my stuff...I haven't "db'd" my way out of this yet...not 'cause of getting mired in muck but because I haven't done it for myself, for my h, for my m.

I'm not sure I'll know when to leave but I don't think I'm ready just yet...

Sage