Maybe I didn't say it quite right, and I can only know what it looks like to me, obviously! I will try again!
I don't think we have ever done anything to exclude her, even in this latest instance. Remember, she very pointedly excluded herself from the late Fathers Day baseball game. I think that she uses the fact that the rest of us are guys to justify her feelings of (I don't even know what they are). That way she doesn't have to look at herself, she can just blame us. It does sound harsh, but after living with her for 23 years, I notice patterns!
Julia! DO NOT APOLOGIZE! One of the best things about these boards is the hard questions we put to each other. Making us think a level below where we want to, and take a second look at things. So, please, keep doing it! You know, it was a harsh statement. And I am going to think some more about it. Her feelings are valid, I know that. I think that the way she uses them may be less so.
We will try to come up with something good for the 4th, and make sure she knows it includes her. I will start thinking about that soon!
