I think that in spite of the R talk you need to continue with the plan to act AS IF H is a casual friend, and to continue with being dim and not initiating contact.
Definitely no initiating talks about your needs, or R talks at all. Even if you were the strong one in the R (which it sounds like you were), I think you need to continue to be strong, confident and acting happy until he starts taking steps back towards you.
I second what Neil said- you ARE doing really well. Keep going!
