I do think it is a quarter life crisis brought on by the illness. It has all the classic signs to me.
I could get it into shape without him. Although, I always did everything with the house as after the illness he just opted out. Also, since he left I have been left to deal with everything, even when there was a crisis with the roof he refused to come and help. I also feel it lets him off the hook, although I know it is exerting pressure on him - maybe I'll see what he comes up with and respond to that instead of fixing and taking charge. That could be a huge 180 for me.
I find it so strange that they don't take their things. It is quite bizarre! The only real thing he took was his laptop and ipod, oh and underwear!
I guess you are right on splitting stuff, that is me wanting to fix and organise again. I can't stand working at his pace!! I never have been able to it was one of our contentions. Oh, I've discovered a lot in this post! :-)
