Originally Posted By: ms ladybug
he said, "I've always loved you. I just want you to trust me. I want to take care of you, and I want you to take care of me. Quit fighting me every step of the way."

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Oh, and TwinDad, he'll SO force the issue if he doens't SEE in action what I wrote in the email.


I think these are interesting things to look at.

lets talk "solution oriented" goals here, shall we?

As well as you potentially looking at [how to show him action to match what you wrote in the email]... how about also setting goals for yourself, in looking for:

1. One way that you can "take care of him"
and then do it.

2. One way that he can "take care of YOU". And then gently ask him to (requesting, not demanding), and then dont argue/complain about how he does it, but only show appreciation to him for it.

Betcha that would be a 180 that would get his attention

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle