Quote: What if I started mentioning to h. the things that he does (the ilys, the hugs, the whatevers) that I appreciate and make me feel safe, loved, secure, whatever? I don't think I do that much now...my plan wouldn't be to overwhelm him with it -- not much good in that! But, if h. feels as though "nothing is ever enough" in part because I never tell him what IS working, well, couldn't noting and appreciating and commenting be a good thing????
sage I really wish there were a lightbulb smilie!!!!!!!!!
sheesh woman I thought you were already doing this!!! it works big time...
I've been doing that with h for a long time now (well I started with little things during the seperation actually)
I say thank you when he calls...why..because I like when he calls it makes me feel good.
I thank him when he tells me he's misserable and his day is going crummy...why because he's sharing with me and I thank him for sharing..
I thank him for hugs...well because I want them damn it and if I say thank you maybe I'll get more!!
nothing wrong with saying thank you and letting him know what IS working.....
